How to Set Goals
So how do you set goals?
There is an acronym that applies to goals S.M.A.R.T. (there are some variations but I like this one the best).
Continuing on with the imaginary Ideal Day example let’s say you want to get 170 on your LSAT (because you plan on becoming a lawyer). Is this a S.M.A.R.T. goal?
Is it Specific? Yes, it’s a specific score that you are aiming to achieve.
When you set your goals ensure they are specific – use an action word like “I am” or “I will” or “To Reduce” or “To achieve” “To stop” “To start” etc.
One of the tools I use is called the T-Form which helps you identify the things that are working (and shouldn’t be touched) and the things you need to increase, decrease, start and stop to get you from HERE to THERE.
Is it Measurable? Yes, it’s a number 😊
Is it Achievable? Do you have the skills to do this? Yes. Do you have resources to help you do this? So, the goal can be achieved.
Whatever you do, do not set yourself up for failure. It’s good to have a stretch goal but you have to have the ability to achieve it.
Is it Relevant? Yes, you need this to get into post-secondary education(relevant) and you know you can do it
When you are setting your own goals ask yourself, is this particular goal relevant to the big picture, my wants and my values? Will it get me where I want to go?
Is it time-sensitive? Yes, she needs to get this mark now if she wants to be accepted into law school next year.
When you are setting your goals, make sure you hold yourself to achieving them by a specific date. I’ve found that when I have random dates as deadlines, I never achieve my goals because I convince myself that the date really didn’t matter.
However, if you work backwards from your “There” point to your “Here” point, you’ll see that in order to take all the steps that are needed, you will have to hold yourself accountable to a specific date, or the rest of the steps and goals will fall like dominoes and you won’t get to your There.
One last point I’d like to make, and I’ve had to remind myself of this a few times — Hold yourself accountable but also be kind to yourself. If you want to achieve your ideal day in your ideal lifestyle vision, while living your best life, realize that sometimes crap happens that will derail you. It’s important to be kind to yourself while you regroup and get ready to tackle the challenge again.
And then you need to make a plan and most importantly, you need to take ACTION!